Feeling unseen in your relationship? You are not alone. Marriage and Relationships require hard work. Sometimes it may feel as though only 1 person is doing the work. This may often lead to burn out and or resentment. In an effort to shed some light on the difficulties within a marriage or relationship and how to navigate them.

The series is Titled: The Unspoken Truths of Marriage & Relationships

It is a raw and reflective series unpacking the quiet storms within commitment.

In Part 1 of “The Unspoken Truths of Marriage & Relationships” we explore emotional disconnection, the illusion of intimacy, and how to reconnect when silence becomes your new normal.

Let’s dive in…

How do you live with someone… and not understand who they are?

I’m not talking about hobbies. I’m not asking if you know their favorite color or how they take their coffee. I’m asking—do you know what lights their soul on fire? What gives them wings? What makes them feel like they matter, like they’re seen?

So many of us walk around with someone we once couldn’t go a day without, only to wake up years later as strangers sharing a routine. You start missing things. Important things. Their laughter doesn’t sound the same. Their silence lingers longer. You become uneasy in certain conversations, so you avoid them. You’re oblivious to their pain. And slowly, the window to truly know them again begins to close.

Marriage, they say, is about growing together. But what if one of you is growing, and the other is just surviving? What if you’re so caught up in bills and chores and kids and schedules that you forget you’re supposed to study this person? Every version of them. The person they are today. The one they’re becoming.

You don’t realize they’ve changed. You don’t recognize that they’re unhappy. And by the time you do—it feels too late.

Maybe you still love them. But love alone won’t carry the weight of distance. Love can become autopilot. A default setting. A name you call someone while you’re both quietly breaking.

And here’s the painful truth: sometimes, you don’t see their needs until they stop asking. Until the spark is gone. Until conversations are replaced with silence, and that silence becomes comfortable… even though it’s slowly killing you both.

This is just the beginning.

In Part 2, we’ll talk about the quiet drift—the subtle, almost unnoticeable ways distance creeps in and slowly unravels what once felt unbreakable.

Reflection Journal Prompts

Take a moment to sit with these. No filters. Just honesty between you and the page:

1. When was the last time I felt truly seen by my partner?

2. What do I know about who my partner is today—not who they used to be?

3. Have I been emotionally present, or just physically around?

4. What part of me feels hidden, muted, or misunderstood in my marriage?

5. If I could say one thing without fear of rejection or conflict, what would it be?

Every unspoken feeling has a story. Don’t let yours go untold. Looking forward to hearing from you.